• antsu@lemmy.wtf
    36·
    1 month ago

    I read this as “bipedal girls”. Me too, love me a nice pair of legs.

  • Jesus@lemmy.world
    21·
    1 month ago

    This is one of those things you find at a university art gallery at the end of a semester.

  • Cruxifux@feddit.nl
    221·
    1 month ago

    The crazy girls being better at sex thing always confused me. I vaguely understand that correlation but like… it holds so true. What is it about bpd that makes you bang so good?

    • rabber@lemmy.caOPEnglish
      38·
      1 month ago

      The good times are especially good and the bad times are especially bad, currently dating one and confused a lot of the time

      Sometimes she’s a “pick any hole” kind of girl with fictional tier blowjobs every morning but the flipside is I’m sometimes the worst person in the world because I said something triggering I don’t learn about until days later that isn’t even triggering to a normal person

      I’m really sensitive like an empath so I’ve been losing sleep over whether to run or if her gushing love for me part time is worth the struggle, and also it’s stressful thinking I already locked in and she might do something bad to herself if I leave now

      Girl is insanely attractive like beyond my league too for context, I’m 31 and she is 26, with cutting scars all over her body which don’t actually scare me but it means it probably will keep happening and there’s nothing I can do about it

      So far she’s self aware and warns me when she’s about to get sick again and I think the maturity and honesty is why I haven’t ran yet. But even with warning, and her turning on me soon after, is still incredibly confusing for me

      Also she sent me this meme

      • potoooooooo ☑️@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        1 month ago

        Yes, you should run. It probably doesn’t do you any good to tell you this now, as I know how intoxicating those times can be, but you should run. I was in exactly this situation. Also it WILL be hard to find equivalent sex in the future. Just try not to think too much about the fact that you might have now peaked in that regard.

        If you get to the point that you want some helpful answers, consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I read it in one night, it was so helpful back in the day. See if maybe it touches any sensitive areas.

    • MeatPilot@lemmy.worldEnglish
      30·
      1 month ago

      One explanation for someone who is bipolar. Hypomania can express as hypersexual.

      My wife and past girlfriends have experienced this with me and to be honest it’s fun for the first hour but having a throbbing boner and inability to satisfy the urge stops being fun for both parties involved. Also makes woman feel horribly inadequate that they can’t get a man to cum. Add to it I try to do all sorts of uncomfortable things to us both to just find some release.

      I’m sure that the bipolar woman go through what I have gone through it’s like eating nonstop and still being hungry even though your stomach is about to burst. You feel like a disgusting slob with every bite but can’t put the food down. All you crave is the sloppiest and nastiest food because anything healthy just doesn’t get you there. The regret afterwards sometimes is next level.

      Not trying to be a downer, but you did ask.

      • PrettyFlyForAFatGuy@feddit.uk
        1·
        1 month ago

        Pretty much. I had a partner with BPD for almost four years. It was extremely intense.

        The sex was fantastic but fucking hell was it tough walking on eggshells constantly.

        My brother is currently going through something similar with someone else with more severe BPD

      • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        81·
        1 month ago

        The mania also helps. Bipolar isn’t just a happy-sad thing. The manic phase is categorized in the same group as schizoaffective disorders. Some of the most common symptoms of mania are hyper sexuality and feeling invincible. Imagine being absolutely insatiable even while doing it. So you keep going harder and harder, trying to find something to sate the urge. And the entire time, you’re delusional to the point of thinking nothing will hurt you. If you’re a manic girl who just brought home a random hookup, he’s about to get sex so hard his entire genetic line will be impressed.

    • OldChicoAle@lemmy.world
      1·
      1 month ago

      As a gay man, I had some of the best sex with a man that turned out to be a little cray cray. His place was immaculate but he freaked out on me after one hookup. Granted, I did cancel our second date, but no need to get weird about it. Blocked. Never driving around his place again either.

      • Cruxifux@feddit.nl
        1·
        1 month ago

        Yeah I dated a girl for 3 years that was amazing sex. Not worth the emotional abuse though.

        Also I guess I shouldn’t have prefaced this with just women being like this. I’ve heard the same about men.

        • rabber@lemmy.caOPEnglish
          0·
          1 month ago

          was she honest about her issues or did she manipulate you? was she working on it?

          • Cruxifux@feddit.nl
            2·
            1 month ago

            She was not honest and was not working on it. I was just hopeful it would magically get better. Because I’m stupid and figured it had to if I just kept working on it and being a good boyfriend. But I know now there wasn’t much I could do.

    • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      0·
      30 days ago

      From personsl experience: it’s not worth it.

      Swap pronouns were applicable.

      You’ll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won’t have the time or energy for sex. Then she’ll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did’t want her anymore and she wanted revenge.

      She’ll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it’s probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn’t have room in his parent’s apartment that she’s moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.

      My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.

          • proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml
            1·
            28 days ago

            You still seem deeply traumatized. The way you speak about your experience is something that reminds me of myself and other people’s communication with unprocessed traumatic experiences.

            You experience is valid, but the way you generalize and demonize BPD/mentally ill women is not. You can’t expect to get any pity or validation by randomly trauma dumping in a shitposting community. Getting angry and generalizing is often the first step towards healing, but… This is not the place to do it.

            • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com
              0·
              28 days ago

              You’re accusing me of generalizing/demonizing women with BPD in a thread questioning if sex with mentally ill people is “worth it”. Get off your high horse and spare me your armchair psychoanalysis.

              • proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml
                1·
                27 days ago

                No I just don’t want to tell you straight up to just shut the fuck up. And I’m not accusing you, you obviously fucking did. You phrased it as if your experience is representative of all experiences, without any nuance, empathy, and expressed a deep grudge you still seem to hold. Nobody needs armchair psychoanalysis to tell you that that’s obviously something you still need to work on and not something to share as a reply to someone asking why BPD people bang better.

                There’s plenty of ways to tell people “a relationship with a mentally ill person is a commitment and might backfire; be careful” - “she will fuck your neighbor and I almost killed myself” is arguably one of the shittier ones.

  • ouRKaoS@lemmy.today
    112·
    1 month ago

    The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.

  • istdaslol@feddit.org
    21·
    1 month ago

    But don’t call them a fish. We did it once and the aftermath wasn’t very cool.

  • ParadoxSeahorse@lemmy.world
    0·
    1 month ago

    I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD

    Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.

    This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.

    Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.

    This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal

    • proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml
      1·
      30 days ago

      I’m diagnosed with BPD and met (quite some) other people who were diagnosed over the years. I think your theory is bullshit – but not in a rude way, it just doesn’t fit what I know about BPD and the women diagnosed with BPD I got to know.

      Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience

      Modern treatment methods often follow a bio-psychological or bio-psycho-social model. This is a oversimplification, but BPD is usually a biological/genetic predisposition to be more emotional + bad experiences in your childhood, leading to strong negative emotions and the lack of mechanisms to regulate those emotions, which cumulates in impulsivity, unhealthy coping mechanisms etc later on.

      There’s overlap with the vague concept of hypersensitivity and ADHD; there’s differential diagnosis too, which is “hey, this can be similar to that, let’s diagnose properly before we do anything”; and there’s comorbidity.

      I agree that trauma plays a big role, and I would go so far as to claim every BPD person is traumatized in a way that justifies therapy, but PTSD is a specific diagnosis, just like autism is.

      • ParadoxSeahorse@lemmy.world
        0·
        30 days ago

        My personal experience is that doctors and institutions (ie. hospital, work, university) are just far more friendly towards the dual diagnosis. ASD is treated as, I don’t necessarily accept “disability”, but special circumstances, and is generally well catered for given enough back and forth with the correct departments. And PTSD is quite favourably treated as things that happened to you rather than because of you, which it always feels is kind of the assumption once people hear the BPD diagnosis.

        • proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml
          1·
          30 days ago

          So like, stigmatization even from professionals? Yeah I can see that. It’s absolutely not what I experienced so far, quite the opposite; but I haven’t been to each and every psych ward in my country haha.

          Maybe I just didn’t like your phrasing? Because it’s different if you straight up say: The diagnosis and treatment in psychiatry is flawed and still has a long way to go; if you personally suffer from BPD and don’t get the treatment you know you need, get diagnosed with ASD and PTSD to get proper treatment; directly addressing the problems of an established diagnosis and treatment system which is only very sluggishly changing.

          edit: if you’re interested in this kind of stuff, search for “OPD-3”, it tries to address the rigidity problem the ICD-10 and DSM-5 have

            • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com
              1·
              28 days ago

              Okay but what if someone were hurting and we didnt add enough extra hurt and nope and ouch to them? Like didnt really use all our various mavhineries to apply the makinh things worse to the already bad. Wouldn’t that be horrible? How would you tolerate a philosophical or political or social system that failed to even create sufficiently concentrated suffering? If it couldn’t, youd need to add suffering til it did, right?