• lath@piefed.social
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    2 months ago

    True. A good, safe environment will kickstart your baby making hormones into overdrive.

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      I have a sample size of one trans friend who started taking male hormones and felt it completely overwhelming. He was absolutely astounded by how intense it was for months on end until he felt he built up some mental fortitude.

      Clearly, it’s not an ideal comparison, and personal experiences are highly individual but I found their experience interesting.

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        as another trans guy i can confirm, T took my libido from “mid, horny sometimes” to “I GET HORNY EVERY DAY AND IF I DON’T FIX IT I LITERALLY CANNOT FOCUS”, in the span of like, no time, literally started with the first or injection

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            oh ya dw, i’ve been on T for 7 years now, i have it mostly under control. apart from the times when it just doesn’t seem to be going away, body parts already sore, brain still says horny, those days are– something

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              Oh I know those days all too well lol!

              Though ime there is no “control,” just “I will face my horny, I will permit it to pass over me and through me, and when it has gone past I will turn my inner eye to see it’s path, where the horny has gone there will be nothing, only I will remain.” So lucky you lmao!

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          I’ve recently had to start hormone replacement. Apparently my T levels were so low I was getting clinically depressed. So I went from half the minimum testosterone levels to slightly above the maximum. Now, I’ve always had a weirdly high libido, and I was afraid I’d have to turn into a recluse. In fact, the opposite happened. I had barely any libido left. I’d jerk off just to test if things even worked, and everything was fine, but it was like I was in constant post-nut clarity. I hated it. I didn’t feel myself anymore, and having focus and clarity while all this shit is happening in the world… Like, the hormones did help with the depression a little bit, but it was offset by the otherness I am feeling.

          Anyway, this rambling is my way to relate, in a way. You went through puberty of sorts, and I’m going through a reverse one. I am having to get to know myself again, unsure as to what is happening to my body, and dealing with the occasional zit.

          BTW, Instead of injecting T, the doctor attempted (successfully!) to kickstart my internal production with a drug that stimulates FSH production, which, in XY equipped hardware, boosts testosterone production. AMAB bodies normally deal with excess T by converting it to estrogen. To avoid that, another drug that blocked it was added. I found it curious how the same messengers are used by both sexes, sometimes with the same outcome, sometimes with completely different outcomes.

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          welcome to the club my man. don’t get me wrong it can be annoying but I’d rather have a never ending boner for the rest of days than have one period. I’m cis so I’ve never experienced it myself but i have enough women friends (and a wife) to know i wouldn’t want it for a day.

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            lmao same, dysphoria was the strongest during periods i hated them with a burning passion. T just made them stop, which is amazing.

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        I would be fascinated to talk to this person. As a straight cis male dude guy, this is just all day, every day. I’d be like hearing someone describe the sun who’s never been outside before in the whole life.

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        thanks for sharing; it’s wildly interesting! he’s one of a small number of people who can speak for two different modes of physical/hormonal makeup.

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        it’s not exactly the same as a full understanding but my transmasc friends labido in the first year of T was much worse than my first year of E (so far atleast).

        The labido of a teenage boy is fucking INTENSE, all they do is think with their dick (well not in my friends case lol). However my emotion regulation is WAYYYY worse than his was, I am a blob of emotionally distraught tears.

        neither of us would get off HRT for the world though.

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        yeah but now i have two people with reference points to both feminine and masculine hormonal makeup that agree with my assumption so I’m gonna believe them more…

        … not because they have unique perspectives but because they reaffirm my previously held beliefs

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      Eh, depends on the person. I’m ace and don’t really feel it mentally but my body will respond to things so I generally just find it to be an inconvenience. Though sometimes my partner and I get a good laugh about it because I’ll not realize it sometimes and she’ll notice before me.

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    So about two years ago, my libido switched to working not at all. Its previous stage was working-half-assed for most of my adult life. Psych-meds were (and probably still are) a factor.

    I kinda hoped it’s going to be wheeee! I’m ace! GARLIC BREAD!

    Alas, no.

    But I now have two noteworthy phenomena:

    The first is I’ll look at something erotic. Usually porn. There’s lots of porn available, and my brain goes this is important. It means something to me and tries to decipher it like a 70s era acid rock album cover or a Salvador Dali painting. It’s not titillating… not quite. It’s like someone gave me a post-hypnotic suggestion years ago and I accidentally came across the triggering image, but that subconscious code is faint and sepia now and gives me strange impulses.

    The other phenomenon is when my brain goes HORNY and I’ll look at porn and it skips right over it. HORNY! It’s like the zombies deciding Homer Simpson doesn’t have enough brains to be interesting, there’s no sexy in these curves. Nor these. Nor these. Everything is all wrong! This is super frustrating, and sometimes I’m compelled to keep looking for the stimulus that has the right pins in the right order to turn the lock.

    I understand Leon now, Nothing is worse than having an itch you can never scratch!

    Sadly this was a factor in my separation with my wife. We still see each other once a week for dinner. It’s a zesty blend of complicated and tragic, the kind that happens while society collapses Titanic sinks.

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        Viagra and Cialis worked when I was younger and probably would work still. But they’re not covered by Medicare-D and are very expensive to purchase.

        Not wholly off the table, though, if we get lucky and find a source.