Don’t suggest hobbies or human contact. It’s been suggested and it doesn’t work.

I have a job I don’t particularly hate nor like, some coworkers I get along with others are just morons, I go to work, then buy groceries, go home, eat, watch tv, go to bed. Rinse and repeat.

On my free days I do sport and watch pirated netflix. I don’t spend much money on clothing or media and save most of my paycheck. What for? I have no idea. I don’t eat out because I like cooking my own food and restaurants are expensive and the food is bland.

Everything is so expensive nowadays btw…

Most people bore me. I’m like an atheist monk.

I don’t want to kill myself or anybody fwiw. It’s like I don’t give a crap about anything or anyone and don’t see what’s the point of living.

I don’t want to travel because it costs money.

As soon as my cognitive abilities start to fail I’m going to be very easy prey for any online scammer.

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      Hey, I just want to say that in case you did give therapists, SEVERAL times, a chance to be a solution, and they showed themselves to be charlatans, you may want to consider that they are absolutely not the end all be all that some people may sound them to be.

      I don’t have the answer, but there are leads to follow still. Someone here was suggesting giving your time to help others. If possible, this may actually help. Or not… Then try something else. Just don’t think therapists know it all, because they sure as fuck don’t…

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      The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. -Mark Twain

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    There is no point to living. For every single reason someone found, someone else doesn’t care about that at all. If there is a point to living, we haven’t found it yet.

    That said. Try self-improvement. Read about psychology. Analyze your own mind. You might find some stuff pointing you towards something.

    For example. Why do you say “I save most of my paycheck. What for? I have no idea” and “I don’t want to travel because it costs money” just a few sentences apart? This doesn’t make any sense. You save money for nothing yet you don’t travel because it costs money? To me, this suggests some conditioning you’re a victim of, something like just following some predefined set of rules because someone (probably parents) once said “you should be saving money” and “you should not spend money on unnecessary things”. But these are just arbitrary beliefs. You don’t have to follow them.

    Or. Are you afraid of something? But kinda would like to do it if it wasn’t scary? Go do it. What have you got to lose? Nothing matters anyway, right?

    You might just notice if you do these two things, there is actually stuff to live for, you just haven’t found it because you either had social conditioning or fear that stopped you from it.

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    Op why don’t you suggest what an acceptable reply looks like? You’re pretty restricted on what type of advice you’re seeking. Maybe then folks can ad libs in the thing that will help.

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    I can’t emphasise how badly you need to travel. I’m old and very well travelled, much of it for work, like easily 20 countries all across the globe and it has been a huge eye opener to experience different cultures, foods, make friends with fellow travellers, locals and has broadened my horizons on so many fronts.

    Yes it can be expensive but it is something you will never regret if you can scramble the money together for it. Embrace it. Deeply.

    If you’re in North America you can experience lots of cultures and experiences like the national parks in the US very reasonably. I’m guessing you’re not in Europe because travel is cheap AF here.

    I honestly think it will bring down many of the current barriers you express.

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    I grew up poor in a semi remote Native reserve in Canada in the 1970s and 80s. The first ten years of my life my parents were still basically living off the land and most of what we ate was wild food. I didn’t even have that many sweets or junk food which saved my teeth when I was young.

    Then as a teen, I had to fight and claw my way through life in order to get anything. Sure we got ‘free’ help for food, health care, dental, eye and education … but it was just barely enough for me to barely get through high school. At the end of it all, I still had no prospect of making a living on my own in my own home community … I had to leave in order to survive. Even after then, I had to fight every step of way to make a living and fight off my old community members who thought I was being ‘too white’ and the non-Native people who thought I wasn’t ‘white enough’ … it was completely messed up.

    After fighting through all that crap into adulthood, I met someone I fell in love with who wanted to do the same things I wanted to do. We didn’t make that much money but we figured out how to travel to over 30 countries over 25 years. About six years ago was our last trip because we caught a virus that make us sick and cough our lungs out … it was terrible. It took me about three months to get over it. My wife never got over it and now sits at home with chronic lung disease. It’s left us at home and we can never leave again.

    The reason why I am saying all this is is that you have the world by the tail … you’ve got everything. You have a job, shelter, a bit of money and you are young and capable.

    Give yourself about ten or 20 years and you will feel less and less like doing anything and then it will all be over. Once you get to a certain age, you will feel like ‘hey, I think maybe I want to do something’ but by then, it will be too little, too late and you won’t have a choice and you will be stuck in your apartment or house or home or whereever you’ll be and just sit there and wait for death. The entire time you’ll be sitting there, you’ll be regretting that you never did anything and that you never went out and tried just doing the bare minimum of excitement.

    I feel terrible that I can no longer do much and that I have to stay at home taking care of my wife. I love her dearly but I would much rather we both head out into the world and just go somewhere, anywhere as far as money would take us. I really never cared if where I went was warm, dry, hot, cold, wet or miserable or absolutely fantastic. Sometimes, the best part of the trip was coming back home and realizing just how wonderful and fantastic home really was compared to many places in this world.

    The only thing that doesn’t make us completely miserable and regretful is that we did go out there and take in as many sights, sounds and tastes as we could afford. It was fantastic. We saw the Acropolis hill, the pyramids, Machu pichu, St Peters, the Mediterranean, buddhists temples in asia, indian landmarks, dozens of cheap motel dives in the US and Canada, the oceans on every side of North America and so much more … all for as little money as we had.

    Now that we can’t move or go anywhere any more … we look at old photos and reminisce about every trip we ever took.

    Go out there and go as far as you can possibly go … then when you get old and grey, you can be as sad as you want but at least you look back on all the great things you saw.

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      I wish that there was some sort of equivalent of Reddit gold… That is a fantastic comment, with a ton of useful advice. OP cooks his own food, a better way to find new food and things you’ve never come across otherwise, is by traveling. It really does broaden the mind, gives you a better perspective on things,… But Mr. ININ, I hope the best for you. You did some awesome stuff and can’t anymore. I feel your pain.

      Op: see the world. Get the shittiest inside cabin you can on a cruise ship that goes to a bunch of different countries. Think of it like a sampler pack of that part of the world. If you see something that strikes you fancy, plan to go back. Plan all the things you want to do or see. Look on some guides online. If you don’t knowwhat to do with the money, you can’t take it with you, go do something with it.

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    My answer isn’t gonna resonate. It’s so frustrating how being depressed makes getting off the couch to go for a walk just feel like… Jumping into a mosh pit ot something.

    Find a 2 mile walk to do every day. Must include at least one hill or set of stairs or something. Works best if in nature.

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    Looking at what you’ve written here, it seems like you don’t actually have a hobby. I would have a go at something you did when you were a kid- maybe you were really into books, maybe you were into cycling, painting, whatever really. But don’t just try it a few times then give up if it doesn’t feel how you want it to feel, try turning it into a project. For example, I wanted to get back into reading books, but I just didn’t enjoy it. So I tried to find out what made me love reading so much as a kid, then recreate that in the present. I tried reading late at night, by the light of a lamppost like I did when I was super into books, and that brought back the enjoyment I used to have. You don’t have to go down that route, the main idea here is to find a new hobby, something to look forward to rather than just existing for the sake of it.

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      I just picked up reading again as well. I loved James by Percival Everett. The great thing about picking up reading again is all the great stuff that’s come out the last couple decades.

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    I have no suggestions for you, but I at least wanted to let you know that you’re not alone in this world. I hope you find whatever you are looking for.

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    Marijuana constant masturbation and an overabundance of YouTube reality shows.

    That got you right back on your feet.

    (This is a joke)

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    Maybe try fostering a pet and see if you want to adopt one. They give me meaning and joy.

    I would also recommend traveling. It costs money, but you can find good deals, and it’s worth it.

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    Life has no point, you’re just energy given form (literally, not metaphorically or superstitiously or some shit, mass and energy are the same thing)

    Hedonism is easy to fall into, and arguably fine, if you don’t find life worth living but can’t muster the enthusiasm to end it, you should try to change your environment.

    For me, life is worth living for stories, I love books and the experience of being something different for a time. I have built my life around lazy evenings on the sofa with my cat on my lap reading a book, or playing a comfortable game, nothing else matters to me at all. It’s easy to be content if your requirements are minimal.

    Life is an odd phenomenon, we’re blessed or cursed with consciousness, may as well do something you enjoy. If you don’t know what you enjoy then try more stuff.

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    Get a pet, you need a distraction and to look outwards a little bit perhaps. Mine give me a point since I enjoy their antics and need to be around to sustain them

    Only do this if you’re going to be responsible tho. There’s enough deadbeats with pets that shouldn’t be trusted with an egg-timer let alone a moving, breathing, lifeform