Yep, that’s just how it is these days. Let me ask though, does it really matter?
If the girls are afraid of the guys, that’s their problem, not yours. Stick the time into something else you enjoy, let nature run it’s course. Find a job you don’t hate, spend your money as you like, live a happy life without the anxiety of rejection.
does it really matter?
Does a dysfunctional society matter?
Fun fact, by doing the above, you’ll end up meeting women who don’t feel that way and are relationship material, and plenty of acquaintances who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.
you’ll end up meeting women
Do I want to?
I’m posing a broader question about society to clarify a general concern with no particular motivation, and you make it about meeting women. That suggests something about assumed motivations in these discussions.
who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.
Oh that’s cool, I know a lot of black people like that.
“Wait what? Wdym that’s racist? But I should accept ‘one of the good ones’ when it applies to me? I’m too ND for this bullshit.”
if girls are afraid of guys, that’s my problem
We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.
Men who took the lesson to heart:
Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
They don’t want you to approach them.
They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.
And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
“Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
“Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
“Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.
I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.
I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.
The bitterly ironic part is that the men who took that to heart are the GOOD men, you know those that actually respect women and their wishes.
The asshole men, don’t give a shit and keep wearing red hats and calling women FEMALES.
The whole movement has backfired hard and made it harder for women to find nice guys 😐
I’ve seen a lot of posts, articles etc with women making those exact complaints, and I always find them rather sad.
It’s been made very clear that the majority of women don’t want to be approached most of the time, especially by someone they don’t know, and that’s fair enough. You need to accept that you’re the outlier.
I understand you but I want to continue being grossed out by the idea of people thinking I am a rapist. Purely because I don’t want to be desensitized to this subject.
I was lucky enough to meet my SO before online dating became the norm.
I’m just not equipped to navigate something like that.
I feel like being eternally single and lonely would be easier than having to encounter the constant rejection.
I feel like being eternally single and lonely would be easier than having to encounter the constant rejection.
Sadly, I think a lot of people are going down this route.
It’s only going to get amplified as people lose more I fear
I don’t even date AI.
Honestly so happy I’m married, I’m sorry for all of y’all. Dystopian times.
But hey to add my two cents: I think that fear is marketable, so women are over fed on paranoia.
At the same time, porn and propaganda have put bad expectations in some percentile of dumb men.
Both sexes are generally out of social practice, and societal trust is at an all time low. Most people are nice, but most people are also awkward.
So get out there and meet some people, don’t even do so romantically, just go learn how to interact with people, form some friendships.
came back to this thread to find discourse that ISN’T cancer. thank you for your sane and gentle response. if more people had your empathy, less of them would be single and hurting.
But hey to add my two cents: I think that fear is marketable, so women are over fed on paranoia.
This is the case with literally everything.
Used to hear about “no-go zones” in Stockholm in my local news a lot, areas where even the Swedish police were afraid to go in to. Then a friend of mine moved to Stockholm and started going to “the worst no-go zone” every weekend to get fresh produce. The only time he felt in danger was when he stumbled upon a drunk countryman.
Hobby clubs are great for meeting new people, just don’t join them for the explicit purpose of meeting potential partners.
Wow, this comment section is a nightmare
Reminds me of a story. Four scientists, all male, on an expedition in Antarctica, far from any other human being. They set up camp, establish the data link to sync their email, and one of them gets an email spam of the sort “hot women in your area”. The next human female was several hundred kilometers away…
The next human female was several hundred kilometers away…
…and probably more cold than “hot”.
Holy shit, ad blockers are a thing, people. ublock origin and SponsorBlock for a safer, happier life! Browsing anything without blockers is akin to dripping dimethyl mercury on your genitalia, crossing your fingers, and wildly hoping for the best.
Dimethyl mercury? Oddly specific…
How come str8s don’t consult with their local LGBTQ+ friendos? I like playing matchmaker.
Gotta have local friendos first…
I wholeheartedly refute the assertion this comic makes that the word ‘lock’ is onomatopoeic.
i think lock is an onomatopoeia and I vote
Turns out he’s a locksmith.
And he’s a locksmith
for people who doesn't get the joke
Thanks!
has the sudden urge to spill the beans about his entire lovelife and the failures and tribulations experienced-
On second thought, NAHhhhhhh,…
Seeing memes and comics like this spread so often, I am having a hard time understanding how SO MANY GUYS are just now discovering that women aren’t as horny as they are and we have different standards for attraction between the genders and sexes.
This is fine, it’s normal, people who want different things still meet and crank out crotchfruit every damn day, you just have to compromise and meet in the middle on what you both want and ya’ll have to get over yourselves.
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Well my whole life there was this women’s sexual liberation movement that has been screaming about how women DO in fact enjoy sex and ARE in fact horny too. Maybe that explains the common misconception.
Yep. When will people understand that the only way to a good and just society is to treat half the human population as inherently monstrous from birth? They should just resign themselves to a lifetime of abuse and isolation due to their physical characteristics. Anything else is misogyny.
I promise if you just talk to girls you will meet one who likes you. It doesn’t even matter what you’re into, there’s someone for everyone out there.
This isn’t about me, it’s about a shitty, abusive message being repeated constantly on social media. Thanks for pulling an imaginary biography for me out of your ass, though. Really helpful.
Nobody here is fooled by your angst-ridden spiel, you don’t get how easy it is to see your intentions and feelings based on what you say, this is one more thing to keep in mind when trying to talk to women.
You very clearly see something about yourself in this message. Especially since you’re being so reactionary about it. The fact that you’re so upset about how certain women view men is your own problem. Not theirs.
Obviously you have a whole imaginary version of me in your head that you can carry on an argument with, so there’s no reason for me to waste any more of my time.
Just calling it as it is.
This is EXTREME hyperbole like I’ve rarely seen before.
Is all empathy secret projection for one’s own insecurity? Or only when the empathy is for someone who isn’t a member of a traditionally/systemically victimized group?
I’m apart of the don’t be a shithead crowd. Apparently a lot of men in this thread aren’t. And you all wonder why so many women are so terrified of men. You can’t even empathize with the fear and abuse they face at a systemic level.
“This harmful generalization is bad for society”
“Clearly you only feel that way because it actually describes you personally”
Not only is that an unfair assumption, it’s also irrelevant to their claim.
Their claim is inherently irrelevant and reactionary. They were reactionary because they felt called out.
Sweet! More gamers!
Single X in my area. Uses the plural form.
Well, which is it?!??
Took me longer than I’d care to admit.
Women who fall into this category aren’t even in the dating pool.
He goes off and gets laid. She stays at home. Looks like everything works out. What’s everyone arguing about? Both characters get exactly what they’re signing up for, unless we have some users on Lemmy who really need to touch grass and realize that not every chick is locking their door lmao.
This is kind of like how parents don’t let their kids play out anymore because the news told us it’s all pedophiles out there.
“They’re in the walls!”
“Better a xenomorph than a human male!”
