At least a first name if family name is too much administrative hassle.

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    Fun fact, you can use whatever names you want. All names are made up. Your “legal name” is just what the government calls you, but you can ask other people to call you something else entirely. The same goes with pronouns.

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      A guy I used to work with went by the nickname of “Womble”, his name was actually Raymond.

      One day I was poking through work orders in our system and discovered that it also officially knew him as “Womble <last name>” and there was no sign of Raymond in there.

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        That’s the thing: if he went by Womble at work then that was his name. The fact that the government called him Raymond doesn’t make that his only name, they are both valid.

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        Our IT intake asks “is there another name you prefer to be known by” - and I have gone by my middle name since I was 12, so I told them, and they cheerfully complied… on half the things in their system, the other half use my first name - things like the name under my picture during Teams calls. But, my e-mail address uses the middle name, so that’s nice.

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    I need that report on my desk by 3pm, xX_pu$$y_de$tr0yer_Xx. Otherwise that promotion you’ve been working for might go to JoeMomma69.

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    I have always told work people that I prefer to be called a different shorting of my name then the one I do prefer. Like if I was Robert I would tell work I prefer Bob instead of Rob.

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    There’s a few people I know in real life, who I originally met online, and who call me “Chozo” more often than by my real name. Names are weird.

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      Same with me, and a few people who call me ‘Tira’

      I am perfectly happy to have it that way - just like OP suggested it’s a nice separation. And while I have nothing against my given name and actually quite like it, Tira is a name I chose for myself.

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    Or even better, lets change society and work to something that just fits well together and where work is not slavery with extra steps.

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    When I applied for a job at this company, my last interview was with “Joe”. For everyone else I got the first and last name. And email addresses were also firstname.lastname@example.com. But not for Joe. Joe’s was just joe@example.com.

    Same company after I was hired. I got on at about the same time as Peter-Michael. Whom we all called Peter-Michael. Because he was introduced as Peter-Michael. A few months in he revealed that he’s only Peter-Michael at work. Everyone else just calls him Peter. It just happened like that because he used his full name on his application and then went with it.

    I know several people who go with their second name as their usual name when around friends. Either because they like it more or sometimes because the parents chose that order because secondname-firstname sounded weird.

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      I essentially do something similar.

      My friends and family all call me “Ted”. At work, people call me “Theodore”.

      One person at work asked me if I ever go by Ted and I had to tell them it’s an easy way to know in which context someone knows me.

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        At school we had an anonymous grievances box. So that the kids could safely air their grievances. It was rarely used. But one day a note read “I don’t want to be called Willy anymore.” And amazingly it worked. Even the biggest bullies and class trolls called him William from that day on.

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      Or your professional life. My grandma spent her entire career going by the less catholic nickname she used with her first husband’s family.

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        This is either a story of a Maria going by as Mina or someone going by as “that bloodthirsty bitch” at work and I really can’t tell which it is

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    The idea reminds me of superheroes going by different names as superheroes than their personal names. Traditionally this is because of secret identities but in the MCU, most of the heroes don’t have secret identities.

    “Oh we’re using our made up names. I’m Spiderman”

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      I’m reminded of someone at work who jokingly introduced himself as Nightwing. I genuinely cannot remember his real name.

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        In my opinion, Batman’s true identity is Batman and Bruce Wayne is the disguise, but for most heroes their personal name is their true self and the superhero is the disguise

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          Also true for Superman. He can’t change who he is, a superhero. However, he can disguise himself as Clark Kent.

          But back to the original question. If you’re Robin at work and Samantha at home, which one is the secret identity?

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            In my opinion, the name you use at home would be your true self and the name you use at work would be the disguise because most people put on a professional persona at work and don’t behave naturally. It would ultimately depend on the individual though, some people might feel more like their true selves at work than outside work

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      Just imagine this in the James Bond world. “Jennifer? That’s just my stage name. My real name is Pussy Galore.”

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    Aliases have already existed for a long time. I go by my middle name out of work and by my first name at work. I also work with a guy who does the opposite. There’s no reason to really have it be so official.