Context: A young adult tells his mother that he’s depressed and that life is meaningless and that he wants to die (suicide is not directly mentioned but implied). Then the mother proceeds to express “regretting giving birth to you” directly to that young adult.

(That young adult is me)

    • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Not normal, just uhhh… maybe common.

      I was trying to think of a way to put it, but that’s a good sentence in this context for sure.

      Also, yes, blood relation does not mean you have to put up with some asshole’s cruelty. Cut them out if you can.

    • throwawayacc0430@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      3 months ago

      I was just consuming some media and that line of “regretting giving birth” came up and I was just like: I hope that’s not that common.

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      Not normal, just uhhh… maybe common.

      Either you don’t know what normal is or common is if you think they’re different things…

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        3 months ago

        Cancer is not normal cell tissue, but it’s very common. They are different words, with different meanings.

      • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)@lemmy.sdf.org
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        3 months ago

        Maybe. The way I understand it:

        Normal is something that’s basically the way it should be, while common just refers to being of higher frequency of occurence, regularly seen.

        For example: “Is police brutality normal?” vs “Is police brutality common?”
        No and yes.

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    3 months ago

    Mate, you will be loved, life does get better, give it a chance. Your mother is probaly a reason you feel depressed i would say if that is her worldview. Find someone you can talk to that isnt a fucking narcissist. Please talk to someone though, hotline, someone.

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      3 months ago

      hotline

      um… about that

      I’m kinda living through a fascist takeover in my country (USA) so probably a terrible option considering… https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Political_abuse_of_psychiatry

      So yea thing are going very great here, spectacular even…

      Basially its just Youtube Videos and pirsted TV and Movies keeping my brain alive. I have literally zero actual social connections besides having a cat to pet, which doesn’t really help much (cat is lovely, just not helping too much with the depression).

      I’m basically just having coffee as a sort of anti depressant for now. Actual meds from any non-emergency sources (because the emergency ER method is a bad idea as I’ve said) takes a while because appointments takes like 6 months like wtf?!?

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    3 months ago

    Hey, what’s up. Are you (or anyone in thes thread) feeling suicidal?

    Talking openly helps to deal and cope with the feelings. But some people feel shame of mentioning these topics. You can find out if there’s a help line local to you and call. You’re reaching out, which is good. Find someone who is open to talk and unload that burden. Trust is hard to earn but it goes a long way to talk about feelings, even if they’re uncomfortable.