Sounds like a mental illness that a professional should help with.

I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.

So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.

No. What it means exactly, is harder to say without knowing you and your story.

People attribute way more power to mental health professionals than they actually have, but I feel like this is something they could at least diagnose. If you have access to it…

The good news is that you care enough to ask about it. As others have said, see a medical professional.

No, you need to go to therapy and talk these feelings through with a professional.

I’ve been in a similar emotional state and with therapy I realized my ‘dgaf’ attitude was the only way I could keep living after a traumatic incident I experienced as a child, twenty-five years ago. I had been forcing my self away from having any meaningful relationships out of fear that they would make me feel bad, like I did on that day. Before therapy I had forgotten it had ever happened, but afterwards I realized so much about myself and it all just clicked into place; all of my strange behaviours, my anti-social tendencies, my mentality of not giving a fuck about you or anyone else. It was all to avoid negative emotions. I wish I had gone, or been able to go to therapy a lot sooner. I would be much happier then I am now if I did, but it matters not because I did go, and I talked things out; I worked out the cause of all this pain and healed started healing.

Ask yourself, when was the last time you cried?

If it’s a new thing in life, it’s alexithymia, emotional dysregulation, and likely a consequence of mental health problems, from trauma to other, deeper underlying conditions. The good news is this can be treated, it’s just a survival mechanism gone haywire, you can get better and have love and happiness and friends and family again and enjoy the full range of human experience. It may take time and effort to find a good therapist and stick to the plan, but trust me, it’s worth it.

If you’ve always felt this way, it still may be a chemical imbalance but also may be a personality disorder.

Personality disorders are incredibly hard to treat. But this is often because people with personality disorders don’t think anything is wrong with them, they think the people around them are the ones with problems. But the good news in this case is if this is your issue, you are already suspecting something is wrong and that’s already the hard part crossed. The rest is just structure and planning. The human brain is incredibly flexible and you can actually rewire yourself to be the person you want to be for your loved ones, for yourself, to experience more and feel more. But again, it takes time.

Be good to yourself. Take stock of your life and situation, make a few calls to some all-inclusive mental health clinics, there are a lot of places that will both set you up for insurance/financing, and they will do the preliminary health tests, medication recommendations and therapy sessions. You have options, don’t go into it alone.

I commented on your other post about this. No, this is a problem and seeking help from a professional is absolutely paramount in your situation. If this post isnt about you, your responsibility is to urge the individual to seek help. A general uncaring for the world is the first ingredient in dozens of tragic recipes. You’re/they’re not alone, even if thats preferable. You need people in almost the same way you need food and water. I care about you/them and I’m absolutely positive plenty of others do too.

I’m beginning to really not care about my brother and I feel like an absolute piece of shit for feeling this way.

He’s fallen down a rabbit hole of conspiracy psuedo-science and has been treating our mum like shit these last few months. Gas lighting her, not letting her see his kids, shit like that.

Depends…

I don’t know what “normal” is, but my parents and sibling being abusive af, which made me just have zero attachment to them. They could get hit by a truck tomorrow and I’d not give a shit, except maybe attend the funeral to not look bad, but I honestly wouldn’t wanna go to their fucking funerals if I don’t have to.

Did you ever got abused/neglected when you were a kid? If so, I’d say, a little bit of misantropy is to be expected. A brain can only handle so much before the emotional part just gets destroyed by the overwhelming depression of being rejected by the closest blood relatives who are supposed to be on your side, the betrayal will never be forgotten, it’ll always be a part of your identity.

However, if you come from a good family, then its… I’d say that would be very weird to have zero emotional attachments to people around you who were nice to you. Emotions aside, as long as the logical part of your brain remembers to care about them, then its fine.

Try looking at random cats, do you like them? Are they cute? If so, that’s proof you aren’t a socialpath/psycopath.

Even tho I don’t care about my family, I still feel very emotional about the idea of families/frendship, even those depicted in fiction. I cry about it, overfilled with joy, wishing I had that childhood.

No. I don’t miss people while they are alive - I don’t need to talk to them or see them, I know they are alive, and don’t miss them somehow, yes friends, yes even my parents and siblings and grown kids, I love them but if I know they are ok that seems to be enough.

But when they are sick or hurting I care. I want them happy and healthy and if I can help I want to.

And when they die I miss them, so much.

Not sure what normal is, but no that doesn’t sound normal. How do you feel about your own self? Do you care for your own body and mind?

Doesn’t this fit the bill for a sociopath?

This would be called Emotional Detachment or Emotional Blunting. It is associated with several mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and schizophrenia, and it can be developed as a coping mechanism for a stressful or abusive childhood or past. It can also develop as a side effect for some medications, so it could be worth looking into a change in prescriptions if you think that could be relevant.

That is to say, it is an abnormal mental state, but you are not unique in this mindset. You should strongly consider reaching out to a mental health professional to see if you can work on this as it is likely to lead to more isolation and a worsening of your overall well-being.

Also your alias is grimreaper. Why do i feel like you are on your way to becoming a mass murderer or a school shooter…

Your parents were treating you badly?

No, it is not normal. You might be a sociopath

Has this always been the case, or is it a new thing? If always, some of the other comments have some suggestions around neurodivergence. If new, it might be due to stress - if I am drained from work and basic household maintenance and just feeding myself, I have no brain cells left to care about anything else. The caring comes back if I manage to work in more rest time per week.