I’m all for refusing to tip, but be up-front about it. Let the server know ahead of time that you won’t be tipping. Hell, let the manager (or if it’s a smaller place, the owner) know too, so you can actually get your opinion heard by someone who may be able to effect change. Make it clear that your refusal to tip is not a reflection of the server, but a protest against tipping culture.
Hell, while talking to the manager, you should also ask if they require servers to tip out the back-of-house staff. If you’re refusing to tip, it’s entirely possible that your server is losing money on your order, because they’re required to pay the kitchen a percentage of your bill. If the server is required to tip out, be clear that you want your bill excluded from the tip out, since you’re refusing to tip based on strongly held personal beliefs. If the manager protests or says it isn’t possible (it is possible, but they’ll lie to try to get you to tip), then they can serve you personally.
You’ll still get served, but it’ll be with the level of service that the waiter thinks you should get, rather than with the level of service that you think you deserve. If you’re going to refuse to tip, at least take the mask off and be honest so your server can do the same.
If you’re willing to do that, then more power to you. Believe it or not, many servers will be chill about it, and treat you the same as any other customer. Especially if you’re there when it’s slow, and they don’t need to tip out the back of house staff. They’re not losing any money by serving you, and they aren’t super busy so they have no reason to ignore you. But if you’re afraid to be honest because you might get worse service, then you’re just a scab who is leeching from the tipping culture and only hurting the working class.
It’s not a “service”. All I want from the staff is to tell them what I want to order and to bring the food. That’s all. I don’t see what extra “service” I’m supposedly paying for
I don’t tip for take out I have to pick up myself. But tipping culture here in The Netherlands is vastly different than the US. We basically only tip in restaurants, and only if the service was really good. Most people don’t tip for bad or average service.
Yeah, a lot of people don’t tip for take out, but who do you think makes and puts together your order for a nice restaurant take out? (I work for a Sushi and Steakhouse). Sadly, we have to and ensure orders are right and still don’t get tipped. It’s not a McDonald’s (we have many other options and temps of food, etc.). You came to a nice restaurant for take out and we ensure all is well, we had to put together your order and ensure all food is correct, it’s vastly different than a fast food drive thru. Yes, you had to pick it up but we still had to put the order together and ensure all the fine food is correct. If that makes sense, it’s different.
We don’t just heat up a cooked burger patty and put it on a bun and shove you through a drive thru, it’s 100% different. You came to a sushi steakhouse with different orders and temps of foods with modifications very different than the standard “take out”.
Basically, America just needs to pay the employees vs tips but that’s not changing. I was a teacher for years but with the recent political drama and parents shoving their kids to iPads with no respect I left and found out I am making almost 3X a month as a server than a teacher, that’s savage!
The answer is in your last sentences, employers should just pay a livable wage (mandated by the government really). In your first paragraph, all the things you explain to me are just part of the job. Nobody is going above and beyond to give me a better service/experience, it’s literally just people doing their jobs. In non hospitality services, people don’t get tipped for doing their job either, right? I’ve never seen anyone tip a nurse, teacher, police officer, etc.
The whole tipping culture in the US is such a wild concept. In that aspect, I’m glad that we here in The Netherlands don’t have that culture (yet), that we are not expected to tip and that we only tip great hospitality. But meanwhile the times are changing, we also see a “leave tip” prompt more often and it is really starting to annoy me. I’ll decide if I want to tip, no need to shove it in my face, especially not considering people make a living wage without tips anyways.
So you living somewhere else your opinion is noted, but you have no idea how we have to live over here… as a teacher I quit to make almost 3X more a month as a server… so unless you live here… . No comment.
That’s like women complaining about childbirth and men coming to try to compare… NO UTERUS NO OPTION… same…
DON’T live in America… no opinion. It’s noted but unless you live a day in our trash ass lives… NOPE!
Fuck tips. 0 tips. Pay your people.
I’m all for refusing to tip, but be up-front about it. Let the server know ahead of time that you won’t be tipping. Hell, let the manager (or if it’s a smaller place, the owner) know too, so you can actually get your opinion heard by someone who may be able to effect change. Make it clear that your refusal to tip is not a reflection of the server, but a protest against tipping culture.
Hell, while talking to the manager, you should also ask if they require servers to tip out the back-of-house staff. If you’re refusing to tip, it’s entirely possible that your server is losing money on your order, because they’re required to pay the kitchen a percentage of your bill. If the server is required to tip out, be clear that you want your bill excluded from the tip out, since you’re refusing to tip based on strongly held personal beliefs. If the manager protests or says it isn’t possible (it is possible, but they’ll lie to try to get you to tip), then they can serve you personally.
You’ll still get served, but it’ll be with the level of service that the waiter thinks you should get, rather than with the level of service that you think you deserve. If you’re going to refuse to tip, at least take the mask off and be honest so your server can do the same.
If you’re willing to do that, then more power to you. Believe it or not, many servers will be chill about it, and treat you the same as any other customer. Especially if you’re there when it’s slow, and they don’t need to tip out the back of house staff. They’re not losing any money by serving you, and they aren’t super busy so they have no reason to ignore you. But if you’re afraid to be honest because you might get worse service, then you’re just a scab who is leeching from the tipping culture and only hurting the working class.
You pay for the service of being waited on… don’t want to tip… then go to McDonald’s! wtf! 🤬
It’s not a “service”. All I want from the staff is to tell them what I want to order and to bring the food. That’s all. I don’t see what extra “service” I’m supposedly paying for
I like prompt refills. I’m happy to tip for that.
the restaurant pays for their staff… should you pay for having a table and chair too? staff is a basic requirement of a restaurant
Do you tip for the service for customer tech support or similar customer facing industries as well?
Is there an option to pick up my own food at the counter? I’d gladly do it.
Yes, it’s call take out. But still employees have to put the order together, bag it, and ensure everything is 100%, so def should tip them something!
I don’t tip for take out I have to pick up myself. But tipping culture here in The Netherlands is vastly different than the US. We basically only tip in restaurants, and only if the service was really good. Most people don’t tip for bad or average service.
Yeah, a lot of people don’t tip for take out, but who do you think makes and puts together your order for a nice restaurant take out? (I work for a Sushi and Steakhouse). Sadly, we have to and ensure orders are right and still don’t get tipped. It’s not a McDonald’s (we have many other options and temps of food, etc.). You came to a nice restaurant for take out and we ensure all is well, we had to put together your order and ensure all food is correct, it’s vastly different than a fast food drive thru. Yes, you had to pick it up but we still had to put the order together and ensure all the fine food is correct. If that makes sense, it’s different.
We don’t just heat up a cooked burger patty and put it on a bun and shove you through a drive thru, it’s 100% different. You came to a sushi steakhouse with different orders and temps of foods with modifications very different than the standard “take out”.
Basically, America just needs to pay the employees vs tips but that’s not changing. I was a teacher for years but with the recent political drama and parents shoving their kids to iPads with no respect I left and found out I am making almost 3X a month as a server than a teacher, that’s savage!
The answer is in your last sentences, employers should just pay a livable wage (mandated by the government really). In your first paragraph, all the things you explain to me are just part of the job. Nobody is going above and beyond to give me a better service/experience, it’s literally just people doing their jobs. In non hospitality services, people don’t get tipped for doing their job either, right? I’ve never seen anyone tip a nurse, teacher, police officer, etc.
The whole tipping culture in the US is such a wild concept. In that aspect, I’m glad that we here in The Netherlands don’t have that culture (yet), that we are not expected to tip and that we only tip great hospitality. But meanwhile the times are changing, we also see a “leave tip” prompt more often and it is really starting to annoy me. I’ll decide if I want to tip, no need to shove it in my face, especially not considering people make a living wage without tips anyways.
So you living somewhere else your opinion is noted, but you have no idea how we have to live over here… as a teacher I quit to make almost 3X more a month as a server… so unless you live here… . No comment.
That’s like women complaining about childbirth and men coming to try to compare… NO UTERUS NO OPTION… same…
DON’T live in America… no opinion. It’s noted but unless you live a day in our trash ass lives… NOPE!