Right, given that you answered genuinely and constructively I’m answering you.

This stuff being the first thing that comes to your mind when you start talking about this coworker I think tells us more about you than it does about the coworker.

yes, it tells you I mean she is unfit to do this job.

I see a nurse who to me is incapable of doing this job because, as said, she won’t pick up any tray or serve food and beverages, and I don’t want to work with a person like this because it means I have to be the one serving her patients as well as mine and as said this unit is chronically understaffed. It’s very frustrating being the one moving patients and delivering food trays and beverages while she sits in front of a computer. This is not what I signed up for.

I don’t know how future me nearing retirement is going to be, but it’s clear I have to quit bedside or study something else, precisely not to become this coworker because as you said, nursing is hard as f*ck on the body.

You write “She deserves some credit, some respect, and some empathy – you’re going to be there too, someday.” You speak like somebody who has the luxury of not having to deal with the consequences of a coworker who gives you the physically harder tasks while she, as said, sits. You understands it’s a bit difficult for me to agree with you, right? Options for her? retire or move to a desk position, both perfectly legitimate options, but don’t pretend to qualify for a job she physically cannot do anymore. Hell, even I cannot sometimes.

OTOH this is not as much her fault as management’s and society’s at large: If we had 3 RN instead of 2, we possibly wouldn’t have this problem, reason why the best I can do might be keep looking for another position, quit this one ASAP and think about studying to get away from nursing. No wonder nobody wants to be a nurse with this job conditions: just today 6 ICU RNs working quit, if you believe one of my coworkers. This ship is sinking.

Happy downvoting I guess.

And folks who are neurotypical are going to find what you said a hard pill to swallow.

why? are people really this thin skinned?

fwiw these people I described are not the doctors, but like 40% of the nurses. Doctors are not the reason I quit, but these nurses are. I’m actually gonna miss working with some nurses here, the good ones, the drama free ones.

Often in life you have to pretend to “fit in”, it’s just the price of living in a society.

does that means listening to dumb stories I don’t care about? My brain starts yelling me to leave.

It would be bearable if they didn’t act like children (another coworker, a neurotypical one if you like, told me that).

thank you for this great advice

but don’t you hate your life or makes it very miserable and tiring?

I mean, expecting everyone to fuck me over would make me angrier I believe, like going to work and constantly ruminate about how every coworker and client is going to ruin my day.

If you are a cynic, how do you don’t ruminate?

or is cynicism more ‘no expectations no disappointments’?

You need a different manager. Distancing yourself from the one you have doesn’t sound realistic: Their job is to not be distant.

I’m lost here: what is their job?

Most of my co-workers don’t like me. My boss doesn’t even like me.

if your boss makes clear he doesn’t like you, why are you still working there and why don’t you have plans to quit?

I mean I don’t understand why this is not a reason good enough to start looking for employment elsewhere. Don’t you find it tiring? don’t your coworkers and boss wear you down?

If my boss makes clear he doesn’t like me it’s only a matter of time before he starts treating me differently, giving me the worse assignments, refusing to acknowledge me…

This would affect me to the point of starting to hate that person.

There’s something seriously off about this story, and I can’t help but think you’ve left out some significant details.

not really, but feel free to think what you want.

I’m guessing you cursed out a coworker and not for the first time.

Not what happened.

there’s a difference between cursing the poor work done by a coworker and cursing a person that was there and wasn’t responsible for the dressing.

I don’t understand why you choose not to see the difference.

lucky you

why are you so easy to trigger?

I enjoyed reading your post, but Im the laziest sob to ever walk on earth and while I can promise to pay attention, I don’t believe I’m gonna follow through.

do you have any advice for me, now that I’m applying and might work elsewhere? Is there anything I could ask during interviewing to indicate I loathe drama, people full of themselves talking politics or conspiracies or openly discussing how vaginas look like?

yes, a very beautiful post.

Lost_My_Mind: how do you do it? Because apparently I’m very thin skinned and overly political statements my coworkers blurt out trigger me or their boring marriage troubles bore me and I find myself trying to control me not to yell ‘I don’t give a f*ck about you, leave me alone’, which of course earns me an invitation with management…

I assume that’s an old pillowcase?

I’ve worked in jobs with plenty of downtime, but have never worked in one where I could just wander off to exercise or read a book openly. I was expected to be finding things to do or to at least appear busy and engaged.

good point, this changes the calculus

The only thing that maintains sanity is having something to do to distract yourself

I don’t see why reading or writing poetry don’t accomplish that

I don’t know if you’re complaining but if you are, I don’t understand you. I want to be you.

earning money doing almost nothing is meaningless? You earn money for doing nothing! and you cannot be fired, so…

do these jobs you got later pay you better?

thank you for your detailed post and the off topic bits, helpful as well

right, 2014 mbp, 11.1, 8 GB RAM

thank you very much for your helpful post