I don’t… Hahaha this is one of the things I most often speak to my counsellor about though and I’m working hard on it.

My issue is more around productivity (achievements), so what I work on is doing things for the sake of doing them, not for the final product, i.e. doing art for the process or even playing a game just to play and not for literal achievements. Learning to just enjoy things for the process or just doing ‘nothing’. They suggested I could just come home and sit and watch my cats and… Just do nothing. I’m still working on that one.

We haven’t gotten that far into external validation, but I think learning to have compassion/love for yourself helps with that.

I had the same experience and did feel badly for them as well. For a lot of them (especially middle aged men in my experience), they just seemed very lonely. I miss a lot of those regulars, they were generally good people.

Cross stitch :)

And (at least for me) the most rewarding!