For self-hosting, be mindful IP addresses have reputation scores and your IP needs to build them up positively. You need to have reverse DNS set, DKIM, SPF records etc for a more trusted reputation, domain reputation etc to not be flagged and sent to spam folders. I just got the $1/month Proton E-Mail for 10 addresses for 1 custom domain as I didn’t feel like dealing with any of this with self hosting, but props for going the self-hosting route.

I never moved away from ini I’ve just been sititng back watching you all re-invent the wheel over and over and over and over and over.

I may switch over to fedora, I needed something non-debian with XFCE.

Nice. I switched from Manjaro KDE to Manjaro XFCE. Check out Tilda - it’s a drop down Quake style terminal, I use ctrl + ~ https://micg.net/the-way-it-should-be-manjaro-xfce-the-lightweight-linux-desktop/

I suggest Manjaro. Debian’s always 5 versions behind, and Ubuntu’s ‘selling security’ - Fedora’s good though.