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Cake day: June 24th, 2023

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  • Part of my 2025 mental and physical health plan has been building and landscaping my little slice of land to go from an unfenced hillside of lawn to a walled and terraced garden.

    Removed the sod and got a dumptruck load of granite stones at the start of the year. I am building using a dry stone technique and moving it all by hand on purpose. Currently finishing the main terraces and wall base, beginning raised garden beds now. Every day I move a couple stones into place and it feels like an accomplishment that is quite literally building on itself.

    I look forward to seeing how it (continues to) come together.


  • It isn’t a paradox, or it doesn’t have to be. It isn’t a seemingly false or untrue statement that belies a deeper meaning.

    It is a definitional and logical conclusion that a concept cannot tolerate its anathema and inverse.

    Chemically tolerance means the limit at which something begins to degrade or an organism has to/begins to adapt. This is at least what I interpret with what is being brought up with tolerance of intolerance: when adaptation or degradation is required, the limits of tolerance have been reached.






  • Namely: there became another human in our lives. Our children became our central focus in our lives.

    Being a family is a different dynamic and being a parent is a significant role in life. It is a relentless onslaught of needs and chores for someone that is neither of you. Babies don’t know boundaries and that has a very real effect on their caregivers.

    If you’re birthing a baby: be aware of post partem, don’t be afraid to seek help, talk about it, and you deserve a chance to breathe regularly.

    If someone is birthing your baby: giving that someone alone time with themselves (usually by having time with said baby yourself) is one of the most important devices for bringing you all together sans conflict.

    Essentially if a mother can get the mental load of parenting off for a day–a few hours even–there should not be any (new) trouble acheiving or maintaining intimacy.







  • I was an inspector for a health department and was directly involved with efforts engaging the sanitary conditions of homeless encampments. I coordinated with the parks departments, transportation departments, etc in responses.

    The thing is homelessness subjects people to the violent criminals people blame homelessness on.

    That said: I am not going to touch the organizational culture that sends its staff out into situations where they’d provoke being attacked. If there is any question of safety concerns I blame the employer, public or private, that subjects field staff to such dangers without necessary precautions. It seems rather backwards to then redirect blame in such a manner.