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Cake day: July 26th, 2023

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  • Triggers are the real key. Like needing to use the bathroom in the morning. Then hang a habit of taking meds right after. You have to look at the habits you already have, and connect new things to that. You can also build new habits, but if they are forced, they won’t have a high success rate. I built a habit of looking back into a space I am walking out of when not in my home. I built it on the anxiety of forgetting something. So it stuck. I try to build a habit of letting others talk, but it has no trigger, so it hasn’t stuck.





  • Not really poly, just more fluid about changing relationships. Basically, more short term, not life long, commitments. When it isn’t enough for a person, move on. And that shouldn’t be considered a failing of the other. People change, interests change, newness wears off. That’s natural. Society considering unmarried men as unstable, and unmarried women as somehow broken is just not right.
    If there are kids involved it gets more complicated of course. Then it gets into some kind of marriage contract or something. But raising kids these days is broken too. You almost need a professional involved full time just to keep up with all the things kids really need. Most of us parents just can’t do it all, both from a time/energy perspective and a skill perspective.


  • All said and done, the concept that people should be monogamous isn’t natural. Look at the animal kingdom. It’s pretty rare.
    Some people just don’t fit that mold. But society tends to look down on them. So for some, bucking the system is probably a source of joy and achievement that they want to share. For the listeners, humans often go along with things to avoid awkward interactions. Then go home later and say to someone, “I can’t believe she just said that.”












  • My thought are that the US is alienating more and more countries everyday. And maybe other countries may become less willing to aid US persecution of it’s own people, and less afraid of US sanctions if the US is already making trading with the US pointless. So my thinking was maybe international investment companies might have some amount of insulation. But I don’t really know a lot about how the money works behind the scenes.



  • Actually I was thinking about this unrelated to the current market drop. It is fear based, but not based on the dropping market. Moving money now would certainly be terrible. I am thinking farther foreward and just wanting to know my options.

    While my family aren’t immigrants, we are not far below them on the list of targets for this administration. So the time may come when the gov goes after us and we feel we need to flee before the gov targets us specifically. I just don’t know if there is anything I can do to ensure I will have access to money if we feel we need to flee.

    In the case of investments it would be more like a transfer, then a pull out in my head. Maybe there are institutions I could move some of my investments to that would be out of reach of the US gov for example. I do have an after tax brokerage account for example. Not a ton in it, but unlike retirement money, it is probably free to move without penalty.