Honestly, it’s hard to find information about exact temperatures versus times. Usually the temperature that’s being used is the temp needed to immediately kill all solmonella bacteria, which is–depending on your source–145F-165F.

Oh, I agree; makes me gag, and that takes some real effort.

I’m not saying I would want to, just that you can.

You can do that perfectly safely with chicken IF you cook it sous vide first. You could run it at 130F for about four hours before grilling it, and it would still look very raw, although the bacteria would all be dead.

Trucking used to be a way a person could provide for their family, remain independent, and feel in control.

Still can. There are still owner-operators, and they have significant control over how they do their job, as long as they aren’t caught cooking their books (…which is what most drivers used to do before there were crackdowns, because you got paid per mile). They usually get paid a lot more than fleet drivers, because fleet drivers aren’t responsible for the maintenance of the truck.

Linemen for the power company will always stay busy regardless of the economy, and it pays stupid well.

My boss is a former lineman; he quit because there was a lot of bullshit dealing with the power company. I gather that the pay in my area wasn’t that great either. When storms roll through, shifts are going to be long and brutal.

Vampires can enter your home whenever they choose. They’re just all autistic and really hate going into someone’s house without being asked to come in first.

I would have to look up names, but yes, all of the sex therapists and relationship counselors that I have personally heard talking about it specifically say that it’s a very advanced form of relationship, that it’s far, far more difficult than any conventional/monogamous relationship, and that most of the people doing them are doing them badly.

Is that authoritative? No. There definitely could be selection bias in that the podcasts and interviews that I choose to listen to, and the articles that I choose to read, that touch on sex, sexuality, and relationships are also ones that will confirm my opinion. (And this opinion, BTW, did not exist before I was in a multiamorous relationship for about 3, maybe 4 years.) I like to think that I’m pretty open about sex, sexuality, and relationships, that I don’t assign any particular morality to any given practice, and that I look largely at how well people find their own individual needs being met within relationships rather than whether the structure is A or B. But, at the same time, I was raised in a culture that is primarily monogamous (often serially monogamous), and normalizes that style of relationship, so I might have unconscious implicit bias.

Hmmmm.

So what does it mean if I enjoy practicing hojojutsu on my consensually non-consenting partner…?

It was the 2003 version with Takeshi Takano rather than Katsu Shintaro playing the lead role. Without the weird song and dance number it would have been a very solid entry (despite the digital blood).

I have NEVER watched a Hindi movie. The closest I got was the most recent Zatoichi film, which had a weird-ass song-and-dance number at the end that was totally unrelated to the entire film. But scrolling through Netflix, it still keeps suggesting Hindi films for me, “because you liked…!”

I do watch some K-horror (Train to Busan, The Wailing, Thirst, etc.), Japanese chambara (the above mentioned Zatoichi, Lone Wolf and Cub, Hanzo the Razor–which is solidly pinku-eiga–and others), and sometimes Chinese historical pieces. I’ve watched a few Malay and Indonesian horror films as well. Some of the Asian television series are pretty great; I was really enjoying Gyeongseong Creature and Kingdom. I’ve tried watching Japanese TV, and the stuff I’ve seen has just been bad. I don’t think I’ve come across any Chinese TV shows that have interested me.

Man, I have such mixed feelings on this.

On one hand, it would mean that Netflix would stop trying to push shitty Bollywood films on me (seriously, if I could prevent all Hindi films from showing up on my Netflix forever, I would absolutely do that). On the other hand it would mean that the really darkly melancholic Euro films would also be off the menu.

My opinion is strictly anecdotal; I’m not a professional, I can only speak to what I’ve personally seen, and that may or may not be representative.

OTOH, if sex and relationship counselors are saying that the overwhelming majority of people are doing multiamory badly, then their opinions have a lot more weight. Are they necessarily correct? No, of course not, any more than the opinion of any one doctor could be full of shit (see also: any doctor that thinks trans-ideology is a woke-mind virus, or whatever they’re saying now). But it has a lot more weight than opinions of non-professionals.

No, castle doctrine exists in all states. You do not have a duty to retreat when it’s inside your own home in almost all cases.

Shooting plainclothes cops that execute a no-knock warrant on your home.

Seriously.

All states–ALL states–have a castle doctrine that allows you to use lethal defense to protect yourself inside your home. A no-knock warrant being executed by cops out of uniform means that you have a reasonable belief that your home is being invaded, and that your life is at immediate risk. Now, admittedly, you probably aren’t going to survive that exchange of gunfire. But the state is going to have a really hard time charging you with shooting at/killing a cop if you do.

None of what I said is restricted to any specific form of multiamorous relationship, or any sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. Most of the people trying to engage in polyerotic relationships–by which I mean the overwhelming majority–are people that have signed up for an ultramarathon before they can successfully complete a 5k fun run.

<serious> They mostly don’t. Poly people think they do, but you see far, far more relationship volatility in polyerotic relationships than you do in monogamous.

Edit: I see that I’m getting downvoted by the people that are in non-monogamous relationships. Fact is that when you talk to sex-positive sex and relationship counselors, they will almost universally say that functional polyerotic relationships are the equivalent of post-doctoral work, while most people have relationship abilities equivalent to a barely-literate middle school level. It’s not that multiamorous relationships are bad or wrong, or that the people that engage in them are wretched examples of humans (…although there are certainly more than a few of those) or anything like that, but to be functional that type of relationship requires a far greater level of self-awareness and honesty than most people are capable of. Hence the reason that they tend to be so volatile; more moving parts, more chances to fuck up.

In my personal experience I have found that most multiamorous relationships are more casual and less emotionally intimate (e.g., more shallow) than monogamous relationships. The people I have personally observed, including my own partners, have had less time to spend with any single person, and were more likely to jettison relationships rather than putting in the hard work to fix problems.

…Shouldn’t that be the other way around…?

Alan Dershowitz has turned into a right-wing hack, making ridiculous legal arguments to defend untenable positions.

Fuck.

Ouch, man. Why you gotta attack me like that?

At a certain point, it ends up feeling easier to just replace the whole damn wiring harness.