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    2 months ago

    Zero times. I feel like breaking up and getting back together isn’t a healthy way of dealing with relationship problems so when I’ve broken up with someone it’s been final.

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      My ex and I broke up before getting back together, we were not back together for very long.

      My wife and I talked about breaking up a few times, but after talking it through we decided it wasn’t what either of us wanted and we resolved to address the issue that got us there.

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      I feel like breaking up and getting back together isn’t a healthy way of dealing with relationship problems so when I’ve broken up with someone it’s been final.

      My spouse and I have been together for almost 30 years and counting. If we never broke up we’ve had our fair share of ‘issues’. None of us being perfect, imho, all what matters is our shared willingness to make things work.

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    My partner suffered a lot of abuse in previous relationships and my own flaws (some perceived, some very real) triggered her. She “psuedo” broke up with me about three times. We got couples therapy and did a lot of work. It was hard but a few years later we’re now happily engaged.

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    Zero times and we’re now very happily married. My other successful relationships were also 0 timers (except for the ends, of course 😅). I had one relationship with a lot of break ups and reconciliations and it was truly terrible, I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. If it happened to a friend more than once, I’d be telling them to leave that person for good ASAP

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    Zero, I tried getting back with my ex because of the kid and we’re highscool sweet hearts. Not sure how I should put this… Just move on, I won’t waste your time with my story. I learned a very hard lesson I thought I learned from my first serious ex, but this one put black magic fuckery in the mix.

    Work on you, do it for however long you need. This is what I’m doing. Getting back into music, art, some video games, animie, walks, trying to work out and eating healthy.

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
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    Zero. I have never gotten back together with anyone I’ve broken up with. LTR? Had one 25 year run, one split. Now in a relationship that has so far lasted 12 years I think? Yes we are happy.

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    Zero times. Married 15 years now. Identifying and admitting to oneself that they are in a bad relationship can feel scary and overwhelming in the moment, been there too, but it’s healthy to break things off with someone with whom you are incompatible.