Learning how to do small talk will improve your social, economic, and relationship opportunities in countless ways.

Asking people questions about themselves makes them think of you as likable.

Remember the acronym f o r d: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams

Small talk can be learned and getting in some more practice might make it bearable, perhaps even enjoyable.

When you are running out of topics keep the acronym above in mind and ask a question related to one of those topics. Something like this example:

Q: So, have you always lived in (wherever you are)?

However they reply, follow up with it positive and encouraging response such as: “ah you’re a long timer. I thought there weren’t too many of us left!” and then go right into a follow up Q also related to the acronym but now attached to the new information you have such as: is your family from this area too? What brought you here initially? What do you do for work? Hey since you’ve been here so long, what do you think about (insert local drama that’s been in the news).

The goal isn’t to interrogate, but to smoothly and rapidly sort through topics until you find commonalities. Then you can lift off and the conversation will feel very natural and easy.

I heard about this 20 some years ago and have used it at the start and end of business meetings, on first dates, with strangers, and heck sometimes even with my friends if we’re catching up and I want to cover things that are core to them.

Your first time doing taxes, go to the public library and grab the paper copy of the instructions, even if you’re submitting it electronically. Read them and highlight anything that’s confusing or important.

Laundry: Use less detergent than you think, and colder water than you think. Don’t machine-dry any wool and most synthetic fabrics.

ADHD? Look into a bullet journal for keeping track of important info. This is not a product, it’s a method, and you can do it with a 50¢ composition book. The main benefit for someone with ADHD is that it’s stupid easy to start and doesn’t break if you forget to do it for a day or a week or a month.

Buying insurance? Hiring a contractor? Know your budget and get at least three quotes before deciding.

You don’t get promoted by being good at your current job. You get promoted by asking for it, or by jumping to a different company.

Start investing now. Pick a stock or fund that’s boring but steady and buy $50 worth (or more, if you can afford it), rain or shine. Don’t stress about optimizing it; even boring investments should have a return well above inflation.

Never lend anyone money. It will destroy your relationship 90% of the time. If someone needs help and you want to help them, just give them the money. Either they’ll pay it back some other way or they’ll pay it forward, but no matter what it won’t be hanging between you.

If times are hard, don’t be afraid or ashamed to take advantage of programs or food banks. That’s what they’re there for. You’re not taking it away from someone who needs it more, most food banks have a big overflow from week to week. If you feel bad about using these programs when you’re down, well, make sure to donate or volunteer when you’re up.

I’ve heard good things about the “Dad, How Do I?” Youtube series. channel.

Link: https://www.youtube.com/@DadhowdoI

I don’t have a link, sorry, but I know there’s a YouTube channel called “Dad, how do I…?” And it’s a lot of basic adult things. Such as change a tire, check your oil, resumes, tie a tie, things like that.

I don’t know if it’s long form, but I agree with you that videos are preferred for learning and disagree with the person saying Rule 1 for adulting is reading.

I set a perpetual calendar reminder for cleaning the dishwasher filter every month, the HVAC filter every 3 months, the water filter every 5 months. My husband’s calendar reminders are to refill his meds every 24 days. Those days add up to one extra refill a year.

When cleaning surfaces:

1. Wipe down once with a damp sponge/cloth. This removes loose dirt and softens the hardened stuff.

2. Spray with a surfactant.

3. Wait five minutes to give it time to work.

4. Wipe again to remove remaining dirt.

If there’s something you can’t get off, use a harsher cleaner like Barkeeper’s Friend. Wear gloves when using that. I can’t unlock my phone with my thumbprint anymore.

Do you really not see an issue with the approach being taken here? You’re looking for resources that you assume will help you, but in the spirit of the matrix movies, “You can’t see past the decisions you haven’t made yet.”

The brain hasn’t evolved to retain information it doesn’t deem useful. I guess what I’m really getting at is, how can you be confident that anything supplied here will be retained if you were previously unaware you even needed to know in the first place? Don’t underestimate the value of deep learning via experience rather than preparation imho. I promise I’m not shade-throwing, I was much like you when I was younger and have a couple similar reddeet posts, and it was mostly wasteful preparing to prepare nonsense if that makes sense.

My parents always said: “No path in vain.” By that, they meant that I should - for example - always take some plates with me and put them straight into the dishwasher when I’m on my way to the kitchen anyway. That’s probably why my place looks pretty tidy today.

If I didn’t still do that, the household chores would eventually overwhelm me.

1st rule of an adult: video is an extremely ineffective media for any information except for sport and porno. You’re a grown up now, learn to read.