So why are mothers expected to just figure things out on their own? We humans have women living way past fertile age because they were important for children, and suddenly we decided we don’t need grandma’s help passing along generational knowledge and helping first time mothers. Grandma/Grandpa are supposed to be free and focus on helping the parents so they learn and don’t make mistakes because they don’t know anything.
And community too. It’s so isolated. Makes me sad, and afraid to have children.
Let’s be real, the whole “only mom and dad are supposed to FAFO on their own” is an extremely stupid societal expectation. Humans were never meant to live as isolated animals, always in groups
When you’re planning on having kids, or pregnant, your health care providers will recommend you take some parenting classes. There’s ways to learn, don’t let your parents not being there for you stop you. You will also likely get recommended to get a doula and midwife.
It’s not the same. For starters, none of it is free. Like every other aspect of capitalism, it disproportionately affects the poor. Also, I don’t know about you, but I would never be able to trust a stranger as much as my own family. And the family is also missing out. It’s so rewarding to raise a baby. I was involved in raising many of my nieces and nephews, and it was so great. Just interacting with kids is a beautiful thing, and a wonderful stress reliever. (I know not everyone likes babies, but many do.) I know that there’s some real threat of perverts, but the fact that babies are pretty much isolated from the society is not great for their growth.
And why do you think the family still can’t be involved? Your parents likely don’t know everything, and there’s recent discoveries to know about too. Even with family support, you should still do all the above as well. Prepare yourself, don’t expect others to always be there.
So why are mothers expected to just figure things out on their own? We humans have women living way past fertile age because they were important for children, and suddenly we decided we don’t need grandma’s help passing along generational knowledge and helping first time mothers. Grandma/Grandpa are supposed to be free and focus on helping the parents so they learn and don’t make mistakes because they don’t know anything.
And community too. It’s so isolated. Makes me sad, and afraid to have children.
Let’s be real, the whole “only mom and dad are supposed to FAFO on their own” is an extremely stupid societal expectation. Humans were never meant to live as isolated animals, always in groups
When you’re planning on having kids, or pregnant, your health care providers will recommend you take some parenting classes. There’s ways to learn, don’t let your parents not being there for you stop you. You will also likely get recommended to get a doula and midwife.
It’s not the same. For starters, none of it is free. Like every other aspect of capitalism, it disproportionately affects the poor. Also, I don’t know about you, but I would never be able to trust a stranger as much as my own family. And the family is also missing out. It’s so rewarding to raise a baby. I was involved in raising many of my nieces and nephews, and it was so great. Just interacting with kids is a beautiful thing, and a wonderful stress reliever. (I know not everyone likes babies, but many do.) I know that there’s some real threat of perverts, but the fact that babies are pretty much isolated from the society is not great for their growth.
Free where I live.
And why do you think the family still can’t be involved? Your parents likely don’t know everything, and there’s recent discoveries to know about too. Even with family support, you should still do all the above as well. Prepare yourself, don’t expect others to always be there.