Stop listening to respond and this won’t happen. Actively listen and you’ll always have something to add, at the end, when it’s you’re turn to speak.
Edit: Look y’all, I’ve been dealing with my ADHD unmedicated for over 20 years and I have to say sometimes you need to listen to the neurotypicals. Just because conversation skills like “active listening” don’t come natural to you doesn’t mean you should just discount the advice as neurotypical nonsense. Use those beautiful powers of observation and pattern reconition intentionally: listen, parse, connect back to context, respond. Believe it or not, you don’t need to have a response ready immediately, and most folks appreciate a few seconds of silence as it shows them you care enough to respond genuinely rather than just speaking.
Believe it or not, you don’t need to have a response ready immediately
A lot of the time I do actually, especially in casual banter. Otherwise someone else who is more quick will reply instead and then I’ll lose both my response and probably what the original person even said.
Is this for 1 on 1 conversations? I feel like i do need a response ready, because there will never be more than about 1/10 of a second of silence bfcore someone else starts.
I feel like the only way I’m ever gonna be anything other than silent all night is to be a little louder than the person who started talking half a second before or after me.
Stop listening to respond and this won’t happen. Actively listen and you’ll always have something to add, at the end, when it’s you’re turn to speak.
Edit: Look y’all, I’ve been dealing with my ADHD unmedicated for over 20 years and I have to say sometimes you need to listen to the neurotypicals. Just because conversation skills like “active listening” don’t come natural to you doesn’t mean you should just discount the advice as neurotypical nonsense. Use those beautiful powers of observation and pattern reconition intentionally: listen, parse, connect back to context, respond. Believe it or not, you don’t need to have a response ready immediately, and most folks appreciate a few seconds of silence as it shows them you care enough to respond genuinely rather than just speaking.
A lot of the time I do actually, especially in casual banter. Otherwise someone else who is more quick will reply instead and then I’ll lose both my response and probably what the original person even said.
Is this for 1 on 1 conversations? I feel like i do need a response ready, because there will never be more than about 1/10 of a second of silence bfcore someone else starts. I feel like the only way I’m ever gonna be anything other than silent all night is to be a little louder than the person who started talking half a second before or after me.