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Does anyone remember much of their childhood?
I mean anyone over 30, or so.
Not me. Had an email to my grandmother the other night where she was trying to guilt trip me into coming to see her before she moved into a seniors home. The woman who said I was going to hell for being gay and sobbed, begging me to not be gay while saying in the same breath she knew that I couldn’t change, tried to guilt trip me with the same shit her narcissistic daughter used. Then ended it all saying “Dream of the good times” and I was literally hit by an intense realization that I couldn’t remember any. I know there were some but I can’t remember a singular fucking one. Just general events that happened multiple times. Sort of hoping that’s… normal. Doubting it is.
Sorry. Blabbing. Weird week.
They exist, but yeah you might have to dig deep to find them. Adulthood tends to cloud everything as different wants/needs/values clash. Maybe sitting at her kitchen table when you were a kid and she made you something to eat. Feeling sick with a headache, and lying on the sofa as she mopped your brow? Singing you a song as she tucked you in?
Mood the mental gymnastics they go through to manipulate you always stings. My mom and dad are trying to revision my coming out and getting kicked out of the house as my fault and they are sorry my feelings don’t align with theirs. I just kinda left them on read
Over 40, and I remember the vast majority of my entire life.
My attention deficit never really came with hyper activity.
I also have the ability to mostly remember what I was doing before the distraction hit.
Still have the executive disfunction, and and a separate case of depression, which makes everything worse.
I’m close to 40, and actually have a memory that goes uncommonly far back… like, I’ve considered looking up anyone researching memory about it.
According to what I’ve read, I shouldn’t really remember things too much before 5 (other than episodic and false memories?). But I can still draw the layouts of the first two houses I lived in (first one I moved before 3, the second one I moved shortly after 3). And I can verify that the layouts I remember are pretty accurate. I can remember where furniture was, who’s room was what, and other little memories like putting salt on a bunch of slugs, crying about not being allowed to trick-or-treat, being afraid of my own shadow once?.. strangely far back and more vivid than just flashes of pictures
I also am highly suspicious that I’m somewhere on the spectrum (maybe mixed with ADHD, hard to parse that out). I used to toe-walk as a kid, audio processing issues, below-average facial recognition; it kinda all started adding up the more I considered it
I’m supposed to start therapy again soon and will probably need to see psych about my ADHD meds when I go — so I guess we’ll see what they think. But figured I’d throw my experience into the bag here as well, cause it’s intrigued me for a while
TL;DR - my childhood memory seems to be a little uncommon