When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn’t her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
I remember that sort of shit. The girl I knew got divorced so many times after that.
Yeah in my high school, a girl I knew got into serious trouble for trying to bring her 25 year old boyfriend to junior prom, when she was 16. 😩 For some reason, the district allowed it. 😭😭
Cause the men in charge could relate
16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn’t make it right, but I can only guess the district thought “Well if it’s legal…” without thinking if it was appropiate.
It definitely wasn’t and it endangered the other students
16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn’t make it right, but I can only guess the district thought “Well if it’s legal…” without thinking if it was appropiate.
That’s not how age of consent works you uninformed denizen softening the ground for pedos.
Educate first, then loud blab on the internet.
I’m sorry, I don’t understand what’s going on here.
Your reference is your own comment? Shouldn’t somewhere down the chain there be a link explaining this? It would be nice for you to be right, but I don’t think you are.
If it were only about activities with other shouldn’t be of age people, then it makes no sense. Either they are allowed and it’s legal or it’s illegal for both of them but neither can be considered criminally responsible because neither can legally consent either.
There are stories constantly about someone older having relations with someone way too young but the jurisdiction has age of consent to make it ok.
My god, this place is overrun by petulant children who can’t do their own research and are criminally unaware of the laws surrounding this.
You want a link, here’s a link
also this
TLDR; it is immensely complex, varies country by country, but as a general rule of thumb, having sex with a minor whilst you yourself not being a minor will almost everywhere land you in trouble. As it should. ^applies to regular joe without powerful friends in powerful places only.^
Topic highly unsuited for one line response mediums like this new reddit.
Why do you start every comment with an insult? Their question was reasonable and they didn’t treat you the same. That really doesn’t make you sound as smart as you think it does, especially when you’re referencing yourself in your original comment, and the comment of your own that you referenced doesn’t actually clarify anything, it’s just another example of you insulting somebody and telling them that they’re wrong.
Besides, age of consent laws differ in how they work based on what country you are in, and not everyone is from your country. You’re expecting people to know shit they’re not reasonably expected to know, and you’re mad at them about it and being a child about it.
In the US, age of consent varies by state. In most US states the age of consent to sex with someone who is not in a position of authority is 16. Often with a close in age exception. 18 gets used in US media so much because that’s what it is in CA and NY, and that’s where most media is made.
18 is also federal age of consent, but that only applies when an incident involves crossing state lines.
I saw that kind of thing too. I figured those girls were probably dating the popular guys our age. A while later I found out that not even those guys were dating them. It was the 20 to 30 somethings.
Hey, we’re name siblings!
being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you
Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13… Learn to stab.
I learned a lot about women wearing ice pick-sized hair pins in their hats during the early 20th century for this very purpose.
There was even a song called Never Go Walking Without Your Hatpin.
Can confirm, had my first sexual encounter when I was 5 and he was 18.
Fuck I am so, so sorry. That is so fucked up and way too fucking common.
For girls, it isn’t the age, it is when they start developing breasts
yea, i said 13 to mirror the post, but you’re right
This is actually a destabilizing piece of society. Younger men become disaffected when older men, who are better partners, pick up much younger women (I am talking only about adults.). Younger women are then competing with older women for more established men, which can destroy families.
Largely, we have fetishized youth so much that this isn’t something that will correct itself. I suppose the standards of beauty can change again, as they always do, but for now we are stuck with a real problem.
This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.
I thought wars were for oil?
*lube
Wars seem to predate oil by … a few thousand years.
Doesn’t oil just kinda happen in part of Canada?
As in, at the surface and readily used? Yes and no. Sure, there was some amount of oil at the surface, but it’s very low grade and mixed into the soil. This presentation has an image on the first page to give you an idea of what they’re starting with. It looks more like asphalt than oil (and is very similar). In fact, this stuff is so difficult to extract that, even though it was known about in the 18th century (by Western civilization), it wasn’t mined until 1960.
When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
Gross.
Be a little nicer to them, they got rejected for some old dude!
Hah. I know likely comedic misunderstanding but, in case it was not clear, the 27-year-old pedo was the gross one.
Don’t worry, I got what you meant. I assume the other poster did as well, but had to make the joke haha.
They deserved it. They should have known to wait 13 years to date a 14 year old. The equation is 1/2 your age +1.
… The formula is 1/2 your age + 7 tho.
So for that 27 year old dating a teenager it would certainly not be okay. 27/2=13.5+7 which i would generously round down to 20 years of appropriate minimum age.
27/2+1=14,5 so don’t think i can agree with this ancient wisdom.
They got the formula wrong.
Half your age +7 is the correct one. Works surprisingly well.
it’s transcended “works well” to “has literally become the cultural standard,” IMO.
My wife’s sister dated a guy in his 30s when she was 19.
So much trauma for a decade.
At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
Some girl when I was in middle school, 14ish, used to get picked up by some tatted up 20 something, pretty sure he was at least 25 but no idea. We thought he was like an uncle or something. Nope, turns out he was her boyfriend. Pretty sure that guy went to prison for meth related activities.
That’s legal in most states, but not weird in none of them.
Yeah, it’s legal here.
In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was “dating” a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
Back when I was 13 I was jealous because the “worldly” older guys got the girls …but the time I was that worldly age, I couldn’t believe how gross the guys looking at young teens were.
Now I’m old and everyone under 30 looks way too young…as it should.
competing with grown men
competing with grown conservatives. the list is almost to 1500 examples.
Question: Oh, you think conservatives are pedophiles? Give me 1,500 examples.
Answer: (your comment)
One of the dudes in my gay group tonight:
“My momma cleaned hunter’s cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean.”
He was talking about a time when he was early teens.
So it’s not just girls who get this treatment! If that makes you feel any more egalitarian.
“My momma cleaned hunter’s cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean.”
I’m a bit dense. They were “nice” to each other, or “nice” to him, or they were actually nice looking, or…?
They would have sex with him.
I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.
When i was in grade 9 a girl in my class started dating a guy that just graduated. His family was Hella poor but this dude had the nicest of everything cars, clothes etc. He was very obviously a 19 y/o drug dealer dating a 14 y/o tgat couldn’t even qualify for a learning permit.
And everyone was just cool with it. This was in tulsa Oklahoma circa 1999/2000
One thing I HATE about military bases. All the E1 soldiers wandering the local high schools looking for girls. Was really sickening
Bro it was such a shit show when I was growing up.
Just military bros spending their entire military paycheck on a mustang and picking up high school girls.
Still remember my friend crying/begging for help because military bro didn’t get sex and wanted to beat her up. And this dirtbag was going to get shipped with a rifle to some brown country.
Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn’t being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.
Members of Congress, clergymen, the fucking PRESIDENT. What’s a boy to do!?
My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didn’t ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
What an idiot.
Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
No idea. He gave 5k to one before he kicked me out. What was our house is for sale now though.
I remember how creepy it was to see that once the girls in my class got boobs (around 8th grade, 13-14 yo) full on adults would start hitting on them. I recall seeing a few class mates in a local park, all 3 were 13 I think, they still looked like little girls, it’s just that now they had boobs and wore bras. So I see these 3 girls, each sitting in the lap of an 18-20 yo dude, and making out…
As a kid I recall seeing it and thinking “wtf is wrong with those guys?”
If “he’s got a car and he’s dead mature, like” is your main selling point, you need a better selling point. And to not be a fucking nonce.
In the 90s we didn’t even know what a paedophile was. I don’t recall even seeing that word before Sarah Payne was murdered.
It took a while for UK residents to get used to this new exciting word.
Hopefully today’s kids are a bit more aware…
I live in a country where the age of consent is 14, and this shit is still pretty common. I voted Fidesz because I thought they’d fix the situation, by rising it. They added a close-in-age exception, so if you’re 17, you can prey on 12 year olds.
Wtf? You voted for Nazis?
Fuck that, they distract you while demonising everyone that criticises them as “LGBT pedos” (when the LGBT people are the most threatened by the actual creeps, ie Fidesz, and his fat oaf Orban).
But seeing as you don’t anymore… How come you changed views?
Got my face eaten by the leopards (was a college student at that time, now I’m in their “communal work program” for half the minimum wage so their voters can say “at least he works”), so I read up about all the evils Orbán and co wanted to protect me from.
Hmm, I see. How’d you radicalise at first?
That said, I’m glad you realised their true faces, comrade. Now if only the rest of Hungary did so too…
I hope that’s the last time you vote Fidesz
